Show Me Your Songwriting Friends, And I’ll Show You Your Future

Brent Baxter is a hit songwriter with cuts by Alan Jackson, Randy Travis, Lady Antebellum, Joe Nichols, Gord Bamford, Ruthie Collins, Ray Stevens, and more. He’s written a top 5 hit in the US and a #1 in Canada… so far.

“Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.”

Yes, I know that probably sounds like something your mother would say. But I think it’s true. And, if it IS true, it really matters who you let into your inner circle.

Consider these thoughts:

“You are the average of your 5 closest friends.”

“A person seldom outperforms his inner circle of friends.”

“People tend to earn within 10% of what their friends earn.”

“Birds of a feather flock together.”

Now consider YOUR inner circle- your closest friends, family, cowriters and music business connections. If the above statements are true, then it really matters what type of people these folks are.

If your friends are lazy songwriters, you’re more likely to be a lazy songwriter.

If your inner circle is full of negative complainers, you’ll end up being one, too.

If your close friends aren’t pitching songs or networking, you won’t do as much of it, either.

However, if your friends are serious about becoming better songwriters, you’ll become a better songwriter, too.

If your inner circle is full of positive, motivated people, you’ll stay more positive and motivated, too.

If your close friends are pitching songs and networking, you’ll likely do more of that, as well.

In light of this, are there changes you need to make? Obviously, you shouldn’t leave your family. Nor am I saying that you should never talk to your “happy-with-mediocrity” friends again. But I am encouraging you to seek out and start spending time with the go-getters, the achievers, the folks with positive, can-do attitudes. After all, the people closest to you are the ones who rub off on you the most.

God Bless,



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4 thoughts on “Show Me Your Songwriting Friends, And I’ll Show You Your Future”

  1. What if your songwriting partners are super talented but refuse to make any changes when you try to work with them? What are you supposed to do? Thanks!

    1. Wow, that’s a tough one. There’s some reason these folks are writing with you, so surely they must value something you bring to the table. If they get you your best songs, you don’t want to just throw that relationship away. But I would work to find other cowriters who are more open to your input. If these writers really aren’t open to anything you offer, I can’t see it being a long-term relationship.

  2. Thanks so much for your reply! They really like my work, I like theirs but they are extremely stubborn people and we get into constant arguments. They get extremely insulted if I ask them to change something, and it turns into such headache inducing drama, I can’t even deal. But their work is amazing, so it’s extremely tough & I feel trapped because I haven’t been able to find anyone else that “gets” me and my work like they do!

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